Definition: a false or mistaken idea. (source)
Name of fallacy: Fallacy on unconditional love
Explanation: To say we want someone to accept us for all our flaws and foibles, is in most cases hypocritical. When we ourselves would not accept others for their flaws, it becomes a hypocritical statement. Love is indeed conditional. To say you want someone to love you’re nasty, prickly version of yourself is quite farfetched. They may tolerate it, yes, but that doesn’t mean they love it.
Example: If there is someone who has a pattern of lashing out angrily when they don’t get their way, there is high chance that they may insist on being accepted for that. But what they fail to recognize is how they might feel if their partner lashed out unpredictably, perhaps when they were feeling most vulnerable. Even a saint would have difficulty experiencing love during such moments. It would be unrealistic to practice unconditional love in the sense of accepting hurtful behaviors without expressing how they might affect you and asserting that it’s not okay to be treated this way. This would turn into self-neglect, not unconditional love.
The only one that can really unconditionally love, is God.
Much love!
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